{"id":289,"date":"2016-01-13T09:46:39","date_gmt":"2016-01-13T09:46:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/solosurvior.com\/?p=289"},"modified":"2016-01-13T09:46:40","modified_gmt":"2016-01-13T09:46:40","slug":"forgive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/solosurvior.com\/?p=289","title":{"rendered":"Forgive"},"content":{"rendered":"

Each year I try to choose a word that sums up something I need to work on. At the end of last year I was wondering what my word for 2016 should be. I had a few rattling around in my head but I couldn’t settle on one. I was scrolling through Facebook and came across a post by one of my sisters and suddenly I knew what my word had to be and I was less than excited about it. A little later that day, I was speaking to my friend D and what she said seemed to confirm I had hit on the right word for me.<\/p>\n

So my word for 2016 is forgive. My first thought was that I am in for a world of hurt with a word like that. I had that same thought when a friend said her word for the year was trust and I almost felt bad for her and the challenges I was sure she was in for. Now I would almost prefer her word to mine.<\/p>\n

\"Forgive\"<\/a><\/p>\n

As I began to think about forgiveness, I found this quote by CS Lewis: if we really want to learn how to forgive, perhaps we had better start with something easier than the Gestapo. <\/i>So yes, I realise I need to start small and graduate to the bigger issues. So some of the questions I will be looking at as I start on this journey are these: What is forgiveness? Who deserves forgiveness? Are some things unforgivable? What is the price of not forgiving?<\/p>\n

Ignoring things is no longer an option for me. Anne Lamont says ‘We have to admit the nightmare and not pretend it wasn’t heinous and agonising . It wasn’t a metaphor.’ <\/i>She also says ‘Pretending that things are nicely boxed up and put away robs us of great riches.’ <\/i> I have tried\u00a0pretinding and it is not working for me anymore.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Each year I try to choose a word that sums up something I need to work on. At the end of last year I was wondering what my word for 2016 should be. I had a few rattling around in…
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